Turn the volume down on anxious attachment, without switching yourself off.
The Polykink Guide to Anxious Attachment: what it is, why it isn't a flaw, and how to regulate it, with real stories, TPKTips, and exercises to make it yours.
Anxious attachment isn't "you're too much." It's a healthy, valid need, turned up too loud. The answer is never "detach and go live in an igloo." The answer is to turn the volume down without switching yourself off.
Inside you'll find:
The difference between attachment and emotional dependence, with the hamburger metaphor, so you stop believing only one specific person can fill you.
The anxious signals (the hook, confusing it with "the love of my life," caring so they won't leave, insatiability), so you recognize them without punishing yourself.
A kit to regulate: connect with yourself first, the 30% step with the other person, and why it isn't a one-person project.
Real stories (Marco, Ricardo, the fry, the 30% sexting) as examples.
TPKTips for polyamorous and non-monogamous bonds.
A "Now it's your turn" page after each part.