Consultation

Jaime Gama, the PolyKink Therapist, met me where I was with great compassion and skill. I'm new to the intersection of polyamory and kink, and Jamie offered me valuable new ways to think about my relationships: what I might need and how I might ask for it. I left our meeting with tools and concrete steps. I highly recommend him. 

Absolutely amazing experience with Ruffus (Jaime Gama). What took me months to figure out, he helped me understand in less than an hour. Insightful, professional, and truly knowledgeable about relationship dynamics in a way that felt clear and validating.

I honestly wish I had booked sooner. If you’ve been stuck, overwhelmed, or going in circles, do not hesitate. This was one of the most helpful sessions I’ve had.

Highly recommend Ruffus. Already looking forward to my next appointment—hopefully morning time next therapy session  instead of lunch hour 😄

Thank you for all that you do! You have truly game changed my relationships. 

Thank you so much for your time and perspective. It was just what my partner and I needed.

Unfortunately after an extended conversation, I decided I needed to step away from the relationship. This decision was based on the tools you provided, specifically the one with the urgency timeline. While I stood by the timeline for dating other people, my need for love and security in our relationship was immediate. In our continued conversation after our session it seemed we could reach logical agreements and build toward the connection we've wanted. It felt really good and full of hope for a minute. However, my agreement to date other people and have other relationships was conditional on feeling desired, loved, and wanted—a feeling I haven't had from my partner in quite some time. While exploring open-relating has been uncomfortable, my capacity to feel unloved and be undesired by my partner had reached its limit.

We both carried a heavy heart, but through our session and the tools and perspective you provided, we were able to unravel our gap in communication and lack of honesty with ourselves and each other. Ultimately, we made the decision that was best for us as individuals, and I believe that is the love I have been looking for. 

When I re-entered this relationship, I promised myself I would do everything in my power to make it work. You, Jaime, gave me that opportunity.

Even with a broken heart, I feel the most loved I have in a long time. While navigating polyamory has been uncomfortable and scary at times, it opened my eyes to an abundance of love, intimacy, connection and opportunity—not just with others, but with myself—in a way I had never experienced. 

Thank you for your work, the love in your heart, your care, and your perspective. As a business owner with a big mission myself, I truly believe you are doing work that makes the world a better place.