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A community for polyamorous, non-monogamous, ethically monogamous and kink-curious people who want more than advice, they want to actually understand themselves in relationships.
Yes, it's way less than the guide on its own! Founding prices won't last. Price increases when tiers launch.
SOUND FAMILIAR?
You've read the books. You've been to therapy. You know how to communicate... in theory. But something keeps happening in your relationships that you can't explain, and you're tired of being the one who tries hardest to figure it out.
"I don't know if I'm asking for too much or too little."
"We talk, and talk, and talk… and nothing actually changes."
"I can't tell if it's a red flag or just my own trigger."
"I want to love ethically, but I don't know what that looks like in practice."
"I'm exploring non-monogamy and feel completely alone in it."
You're not broken. You're not asking for the wrong things. You're just trying to navigate something genuinely complex without the community or framework to do it.
Sign up before November 1st, 2026 and gain immediate access to The PolyKink Guide to Saying No (and receiving it) for free!
What do you get as a member?
Updated with tips and tools every day, so the practice becomes a habit instead of a one-time read:
Welcome! Start here — Get oriented and meet the room. Everyone starts here, so there's no lurking-guilt.
Polytips and tools — Daily, bite-sized frameworks and scripts you can actually use in your next conversation.
Weekly discussions — Prompts that go deeper than "how's everyone doing" — the questions your group chat can't hold.
Wins! — Where we celebrate the boundary you finally set and the hard conversation you stopped avoiding. Small wins count here.
Support network — Bring the messy, in-progress stuff and get met with empathy instead of advice you didn't ask for.
Full sessions you can watch anytime, organized by theme and often recorded with guests from across the poly, kink, and therapy worlds:
Non-Monogamy — "You are NOT too needy," "Jealousy is a friend," "I don't like FWB," "What is a boyfriend? (And what isn't)," "The 5 stages of complex trauma healing," and more.
Kink — "Kinky and neurospicy," "Kink and Polyamory," "Navigating kink events," "Punishment and Domination" — consent-forward, every time.
Exclusive Q&A — "Solo-poly and how to tell if it hurts," "Pain or discomfort?," "How to identify needs, pain, and deal with imbalance," and other real questions from real members.
Member discounts on resources, workshops, and webinars — the deeper tools never cost you full price.
A featured Guide each month to work through alongside the community. This month, The PolyKink Guide to Jealousy (value $12usd)
Because of you, I can keep creating the content I love AND providing tools for free through social media and email.
I am also able to keep the price of this membership this low so it's affordable!
Most importantly: you feel safe, seen, and intentional in how you love.
THIS MONTH'S GUIDE (value $12usd)
You can't say no. And it's not because you're broken.
If you can't say no, it's not because you're toxic, or dumb, or codependent, or any of the thousand things people have called you. There are many reasons why saying no is hard. Some are in your power. Some aren't.
I'm a psychologist and psychotherapist, and saying no has cost me a ton. I can probably say no to you once. Twice. After the third time? I'll probably say yes.
This guide grew out of one of my webinars, and it keeps the stories exactly as I told them: the guy who cancelled our date (and why it made me want to date him), the time someone tried to collar me at a kink event, and my dad telling me I lack malice.
Inside the guide
Why rejection hurts like physical pain, and what to do with it.
What a "no" can carry in your relationships: manipulation, blackmail, shame and aggression.
Three questions to check whether a relationship is a safe place to say no.
Seven hands-on tools: the emotional container, the 3-Minute Game, triggers and antidotes, the Yes and No exercise, "Thank you for telling me no," finding your F#K YEAH, and rejection as redirection.
PolyKink Tips on metamours, triads, kink spaces and consent.
Reflection questions and writing space throughout, in screen and printer-friendly versions.
How to get it free
Join the community before November 1st, 2026 and the guide is yours to keep, along with everything else members get:
A brand-new workbook guide every month
Dedicated community spaces with people who get it
The full library of recorded livestreams
Weekly tpktips and practical tools
Early access and discounts on workshops and webinars
Price: Founding price $4.99/month or $49/year. The guide is included.
Just want the guide? Get it on its own for $12.
You can keep saying yes to everything and see what happens. Or you can learn to give a no, and receive one, without losing yourself. But do you want to?
You're not too much. You're just not in the right room.
THE SHIFT
This isn't about becoming a different person. It's about finally having the tools, language, and support to show up the way you already want to.
Confused about your own reactions
Anxious before hard conversations
Unsure what you actually need
Feeling like the "difficult" one
Navigating this alone
Clear on your patterns and needs
Grounded when things get hard
Able to ask for what you want
Boundaries without guilt
A room full of people who get it
Join now
Founding member pricing is available now — and it will go up when tiers launch. This is the lowest you'll ever pay to be part of this.
Who's behind this
This isn't a content creator doing a rebrand. This is someone who has spent years at the intersection of therapy, lived experience, and community — and built something that actually moves people.
Across both of my accounts
Si te duele, ahí no es: Una guía para personas monógamas y poliamorosas que quieren amar éticamente