The PolyKink Therapist

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The Secure Attachment Bundle

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Get all the guides and receive the Secure Attachment Challenge for free! Value: $45usd Bundle: $27usd
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TPK Guides

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The PAWS Method

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The PAWS Method A pocket-sized tool to stop a fight before it eats your evening.
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The PolyKink Guide to: Boundaries

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Most of what we call "boundaries" are really rules, ultimatums, or quiet blackmail. This workbook untangles the knot: a boundary is what YOU do to take care of yourself — firm, ethical, and loving, without controlling anyone. From The PolyKink Therapist, with real stories, the balloon, the 0–10 scale, and write-in exercises that protect both you and the connection.
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The PolyKink Guide to: Needs and Wants

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Most of us learned to scan for what's available instead of what we actually want. This guide is a walk back toward that knowing: tell a need from a want, name your non-negotiable needs, and ask for them... even when the answer might be no. Meet tools like reframing and the 3-Minute Game, plus tips for kinky and polyamorous folks. But it's for everyone. The heart of it is knowing what you truly want. Do you?
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The Polykink Guide to Anxious Attachment

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Turn the volume down on anxious attachment without switching yourself off. The Polykink Guide to Anxious Attachment explains what it is, why it isn't a flaw, how it differs from emotional dependence, and gives you a kit to regulate: connect with yourself first, the 30% step, and don't do it alone. With real stories, TPKTips for non-monogamous bonds, and "Now it's your turn" exercises. Your needs are valid.
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The Polykink Guide to Avoidant Attachment

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"I'm super independent" is sometimes avoidant attachment, not health. The Polykink Guide to Avoidant Attachment explains what it is, why it isn't maturity, how love differs from availability, and gives you a path to reconnect: notice you have it, reconnect through the body, and the 30% step. With real stories, TPKTips for non-monogamous bonds, and exercises. Going slow isn't failing.
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The Polykink Guide to Secure Attachment in Polyamory

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Learn to build secure attachment with more than one person at a time. The Polykink Guide to Secure Attachment in Polyamory walks you through the five points of poly security: presence, delight, attunement, rituals, and turning toward conflict. With real stories, TPKTips for non-monogamous bonds, and "Now it's your turn" exercises. Not the guide that exists: it teaches you to build it, not just understand it.
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The Polykink Guide to Trust

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We treat trust as the most important thing in a relationship, and the most fragile, yet rarely say what it actually is. This guide defines it as something you can work with, sorts it by what's really at stake, and shows what it gives you: security, connection, compassion. Then it looks at what breaks trust and walks you through rebuilding it or deciding not to. Trust is a decision you make on purpose.
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Challenges

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The 7-day Challenge: Secure Attachment

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You're not too much, and needing no one isn't health. This 7-day email challenge works with both anxious and avoidant attachment. One short email a day, split into an anxious track and an avoidant track, so you pick what's yours or take both. Real stories, a small daily move, about 10 minutes each. Ends with 20 percent off the Polykink Guide to Secure Attachment. Starts when you buy.
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