"I'm super independent" is sometimes avoidant attachment, not health.
The Polykink Guide to Avoidant Attachment: what it is, why it isn't maturity, and how to reconnect, with real stories, TPKTips, and exercises to make it yours.
Avoidant attachment learned, very young, that there's no point asking if no one came. So it switches off the needs, sometimes so much it stops feeling them. And society applauds it as maturity. That's the trap.
Inside you'll find:
What deactivation is: why your needs are still there, just turned down too low.
Why love isn't the same as availability, and you can love and still pull back.
The avoidant signals (going cold when someone gets close, not asking, switching off) so you recognize them without punishing yourself.
A path to reconnect: notice you have it, reconnect through the body, and the 30% step with permission to ease back.
Real stories (Marco, Ricardo, the photo, body work) as examples.
TPKTips for polyamorous and non-monogamous bonds.
A "Now it's your turn" page after each part.